Bad blood
Idioms, Stage 3chunk 10 of 22Getting on with people
Rubbing people the wrong way, from offence to a new enemy or a lasting grudge.
- ki o waruku surutake offense, feel hurtliterally “make one's mood bad”
- ki ni sawaruoffend, get on someone's nervesliterally “hurt one's spirits”
- teki ni mawasumake an enemy of, turn (someone) against youliterally “turn (someone) into an enemy”
- ne ni motsuhold a grudgeliterally “keep it at the root”
Mix-ups ki o waruku suru (they take offence) vs ki ni sawaru (it grates on them) differ in who is hurt; don't merge ki ni sawaru with ki ni suru / ki ni naru; ne ni motsu (hold a grudge) is the opposite of mizu ni nagasu in Letting things go.
ki o waruku suru
polite ki o waruku shimasu
“make one's mood bad”
take offense, feel hurt
In English: take it the wrong way
Almost always a softener before blunt words: ki o waruku shinaide (no offense, but...). The subject is the person who might feel hurt; ki ni sawaru is the remark that does the hurting.
ki o waruku shinaide kiite ne.
Don't take this the wrong way, but hear me out.
気を悪くしないで聞いてね。
ki o waruku shinaide kiite kudasai ne.
Please don't take this the wrong way.
気を悪くしないで聞いてくださいね。
Written 気を悪くする · きをわるくするHeard 93× in 3.17 million lines of film and TV subtitlesLearn alongside ki ni kuwanai, ki ni sawaruMain list warui (Stage 1), -ku suru (Stage 4), -naide (Stage 2), -naide (Stage 4)
ki ni sawaru
polite ki ni sawarimasu
“hurt one's spirits”
offend, get on someone's nerves
In English: rub someone the wrong way
Most often in the apology ki ni sawattara gomen (sorry if that upset you), or about a grating manner (ano iikata ga ki ni sawaru). The subject is the remark, not the hurt person (that's ki o waruku suru); not ki ni naru (be on your mind).
nanka ki ni sawatta nara, gomen ne.
Sorry if I said something that upset you.
なんか気に障ったなら、ごめんね。
nanika oki ni sawattara, moushiwake arimasen.
I'm sorry if anything I said upset you.
何かお気に障ったら、申し訳ありません。
Written 気に障る · きにさわるHeard 68× in 3.17 million lines of film and TV subtitlesLearn alongside ki ni kuwanai, ki o waruku suruMain list gomen (Stage 1), -tara (Stage 2), -nara (Stage 2)
teki ni mawasu
polite teki ni mawashimasu
“turn (someone) into an enemy”
make an enemy of, turn (someone) against you
A warning about someone powerful or vindictive: ano hito o teki ni mawasu to kowai yo. Also about taking on many at once (minna o teki ni mawashite mo); mikata ni tsukeru (win someone over) is the opposite.
ano hito o teki ni mawasu to kowai yo.
You don't want to make an enemy of her.
あの人を敵に回すと怖いよ。
ano hito o teki ni mawasu to kowai desu yo.
You don't want to make an enemy of her.
あの人を敵に回すと怖いですよ。
Written 敵に回す · てきにまわすHeard 56× in 3.17 million lines of film and TV subtitlesLearn alongside dotchi mo dotchi, shitta kotcha nai, nanisama no tsumori, kenka o uruMain list kowai (Stage 4), -to (Stage 2)
ne ni motsu
polite ne ni mochimasu
“keep it at the root”
hold a grudge
In English: hold a grudge
Usually teasing or defensive, in the -teru form: mada ne ni motteru no? (still sore about that?). The opposite of mizu ni nagasu.
mada ano koto ne ni motteru no?
You're still holding a grudge about that?
まだあのこと根に持ってるの？
mada ano koto o ne ni motte iru n desu ka?
Are you still holding a grudge about that?
まだあのことを根に持っているんですか？
Written 根に持つ · ねにもつHeard 22× in 3.17 million lines of film and TV subtitlesLearn alongside nakatta koto ni suru, mizu ni nagasu, uramikko nashiMain list motsu (Stage 1), -teru (Stage 1), mada (Stage 1)